Well I guess it is over....
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Posted on Sep 24, 2008 11:46 am
BeerHunter
www.TheLondonProject.ca
Member Since: Feb 07, 2005
... for me and my wife. Very, very shitty time in my life right now.
Anyhow, I wrote a song about it if you guys want to check it out it will tell you all about it. It's in my profile called "Hangin' On".
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Sep 24, 2008 11:51 am Sorry to hear that BH...sadly, nothing inspires music like the blend of pissed off/bummed out emotions...at least thats how it works for me.
...chicks...
In the words of "Norm" from Cheers:
"Can't live with 'em...pass the beernuts"
BeerHunterwww.TheLondonProject.caMember
Since: Feb 07, 2005
Sep 24, 2008 11:57 am I'm still in shock. I can't understand it. It's like she is having a mid-life crisis or something. IDK, the whole thing blows my mind. It's like she flipped a switch and has zero feelings. The pain is very intense.
Sep 24, 2008 12:03 pm Considering the age of your children, I can lump you in the "ballpark or 40ish" category of age, correct? Which would imply to me your wife is too.
We are as well. I have been doing some research lately on menopause and "manopause" (it's real) and it is pretty crazy the hormonal production differences when you hit such an age (obviously differing for each person) it's like reverse puberty. There are lots of hormone replacement treatments (some over the counter, some not, at least in the US) and diet and such plays a MUCH bigger role than I ever expected.
Of course, I am not saying thats the deal, your comment just made that pop out of my keyboard. If she actually cares enough to listen (sounds like she may not) perhaps there is something like that happening...perhaps on both sides...who knows.
Still, very sorry to hear it, it's gotta suck, marriage is a bumpy friggin ride sometimes.
BeerHunterwww.TheLondonProject.caMember
Since: Feb 07, 2005
Sep 24, 2008 12:21 pm Ya, we are the same age. Thanks for the info, I'm going to read up on it.
pjkPrince CZAR-mingMember
Since: Apr 08, 2004
Sep 24, 2008 01:02 pm wow, that really sux. i hope the best for you, to get through this with your sanity intact.
and also, your heart intact.
cooloFrisco's Most UnderratedMember
Since: Jan 28, 2003
Sep 24, 2008 01:29 pm BH, man, I'm truly sorry to hear that.
Your song Hanging On is very moving. Like my grandfather told me one time when I tried to point out a silver lining for him..., "what a price to pay". I hope everything works itself out man. Good luck.
Sep 24, 2008 01:42 pm OMG! That would...
oh, never mind, I got nothing...
LokiCone PokerMember
Since: Apr 07, 2002
Sep 24, 2008 03:06 pm Sorry to hear it man.
HuePinnipedal Czar (: 3= Member
Since: Apr 11, 2004
Sep 24, 2008 03:59 pm Bummer to hear of your pain, BH . Best of luck figuring out just what the deal is . Perhaps Deebs is right, and there is some method to the madness . Anyway, I hope all turns out well for you .
Keep at the music, it will help keep your head together during these trying times .
zekthedeadcowEat Spam before it eats YOU!!!Member
Since: May 11, 2002
Sep 24, 2008 05:01 pm That sucks man...
However, if you want to go the route... divorces can be denied by the court... had it happen to one of my clients
lady: My husbands a heroin addict!
judge: so?
NightcapVeni, MIDI, ViciMember
Since: Jul 02, 2008
Sep 24, 2008 05:01 pm Really sorry to hear that BH. There's not much I can add to what has been said. Have to agree with Hue though, having a creative outlet can be a great help. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about...
BeerHunterwww.TheLondonProject.caMember
Since: Feb 07, 2005
Sep 24, 2008 06:36 pm Hey guys, thx for the words...
I've been reading a lot and it certainly sounds like she is going through a mid-life crisis, I just wish I could do something about it. Not to say that I shouldn't have my share of the blame but wow...
Sep 24, 2008 07:14 pm Dude, it's tough, not much you can do, which is the absolute worst thing. The body does what the body does.
Noize2uCzar of MidiAdministrator
Since: Apr 04, 2002
Sep 24, 2008 10:15 pm It needs more cowbell.
Dude, that really sucks indeed. I know its not a huge condolence, but life does go on. And things can work out sometimes as well. dB can attest to the trauma I've been through and kind of continue to go through here. But we are still together and working on it day by day I guess.
Honesty is what needs to come from both sides in the end. In my case the other half doesn't even think she is part of any problem at all. But thankfully for me I have the studio, HRC and my boyz. Well the last remaining one at home anyway.
So just keep the music thing going and try to steer your own path.
ON the tune, I'm really glad to hear your daughter singing on this one for sure. Killer tune and lyric's as well. The guitar screams on this as well.
But it still needs more cowbell.
olddogMember
Since: Jul 02, 2003
Sep 25, 2008 12:25 am Sorry to hear that BH, I've been through it, it's tough but things may yet work out, hang in there.
Dan
Sep 25, 2008 06:25 am you say she's got zero feelings...for you or in general? the way you phrased it made me instantly think of depression. someone mentioned hormonal changes, which could be the trigger.
HRC attatched a 'joint pain supplement' ad to your word 'pain' in your post there. bad hrc!
Sep 29, 2008 12:54 pm Sorry to hear you are having partner probs,
but your music and pals will stay.
The nice thing is that when a sexy sun tanned stunner wants your body you dont have to feel guilty ;)
BeerHunterwww.TheLondonProject.caMember
Since: Feb 07, 2005
Sep 29, 2008 01:25 pm Quote:
The nice thing is that when a sexy sun tanned stunner wants your body you dont have to feel guilty ;)
You know that would be awesome but the problem is that I don't want to let go. Not yet anyways.
CptTrippsCzar of Turd PolishMember
Since: Jun 20, 2006
Sep 29, 2008 03:12 pm Man, I know that feeling all too well. I am definitely a guy that will try and try until I know for sure even at the expense of my own prolonged suffering.
I wish you the best and hope she may listen in regards to counceling or a doctor visit. In regards to pills, perhaps offer up yourself too so she does not feel akward or crazy. It seems people tend to deny something if it is suggested but have no problem facing it when sharing with someone else.
*prayers*
Sep 29, 2008 03:15 pm Quote:
In regards to pills, perhaps offer up yourself too so she does not feel akward or crazy.
Dr. Laura, who, regardless of some of the hype that sometimes surrounds her, is an incredibly smart, insightful person, often tells people to ask their mate to recommend "they" go to counseling or some such thing in hopes that a skilled therapist will then see the problem and focus energy accordingly...pretty good advice I'd say if one is up for that kind of therapy...
CptTrippsCzar of Turd PolishMember
Since: Jun 20, 2006
Sep 29, 2008 03:20 pm Dr. Laura, you just went there :)
Sep 29, 2008 03:22 pm Some like her, some hate her, whatever, I am not going to debate that, but I have listen to her for a couple years and rarely heard any advice I disagreed with, and on the rare occasion I have, I still understood her reasoning...
Most people I have talked to that "don't like her" haven't really listened either...like most of the people that "don't like" the Grateful Dead.
