oh damn.....
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Posted on Sep 06, 2005 12:12 pm
whosyourdaddy00
Hold 'Em Czar
Member Since: Dec 30, 2004
after a three day weekend that has been like a dream, i've landed in to something that has thrown me a HUGE loop....
a very 'ideal' female has taken intrest in me, and because of that, i in her.
*Sigh*
i don't date much (been happily single for a year and a half now) and i don't whore myself out, althought sometimes i whish i could..HA!
so i only date, when i mean it, and unfortunatally....i mean this.
i've known her family for over 5 years now, and we've never thought this would happen, but damn.....that's what laborday weekends are about! so, nothing has happened physical yet, but we've both agreed to remain single (together) hahah we're gooin' REAL slow for a few reasons.....
1. i'm in NO hurry, at all, so it's not too big of an issue to me, this is the best part of fallin' in love, and i wanna savior it.
2. i'm a good friend of the family, and want to keep that relationship EXACTLY as it is now. real real real cool, they already consider me family...
3. i just turned 26 a week ago and she turns 18 in two weeks.
i promise, i havn't been "waiting for this" or anything like that, i've never really looked at her like that, until here lately....hell this has NOTHING to do with sex, i can't stress that enough! i'm fine and think she's worth holdin' out for marrage if it gets to that.
so what the **** do i do now?
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Sep 06, 2005 12:17 pm I wouldn't do much dude, the age difference and the family relations will surely rear it's ugly head at some point.
That said, I still wish you the best, even if it doesn't really sound like it. Most healthy, normal people change a lot in the few years right after high school is over, it's then that you start finding out who you really are.
IMHO.
Sep 06, 2005 12:26 pm yeah i know and really it's the world perspective thing that's my biggest issue....i can say her family might be incouraging this to some degree.....well atleast her mom.
i need to hear more no's....but i want to here more yes's!
things could not be gooing better, i'm paying CASH for a car all with money i made at the studio, this is my first car in almost 2 years, three jobs, with really cool flexibility, and overall general good times all the time....i'm very happy with where i'm at right now, and it's only gonna get better for the next few years.
how'z it been around here lately? i'm seein' alotta names i don't recognize. i'll have some pics of my new studio here in a few weeks.....we're pretty much open for business.
oh did i mention we have floor space ON Music Row next door to Curb Records!!!
boo-yah!
vdalehubbardLost for words with all to say.Contributor
Since: Sep 12, 2003
Sep 06, 2005 12:38 pm Sounds like everything is going absolutly great for you WYD! My fiance is also 18 (about to turn 19) and I'm 22. We got together a week after she turned 18. Not on purpose, it just sort of happened right after she turned 18. I can say that it has been absolutly wonderful. Course, there are times when disagreements occur, but that's normal.
I agree with dB to just take it slow. Let it go wherever it's going to go over time. If you find yourself missing her when you are not around her, that's telling you something. As the old saying says "Go with your heart".
That's it for this addition of "Dale the Love Doctor".
Sep 06, 2005 01:05 pm i gotta add, i have a perfect track record, and am on good terms with everyone i've ever dated, i alsways thought why spend so much time on building a relationship, and then ruin it at the end by not talking ever again.....after all i still care about them, just not 'that' way anymore....so i donno man, i've got a real life daisy duke on my hands, that is just too perfect! tomboy chicks that ride dirtbikes, plays kick *** drums, and are just plain cool as hell, are a big weakness of mine. i'm tellin' ya man, we click! *sigh*
Sep 06, 2005 01:34 pm Quote:
I agree with dB to just take it slow.
eh, I didn't really say that, I am more in the "don't take it at all" camp myself. But I don't really know anyone involved so I have no real place to say that...and if parents are encouraging it, thats a bigger red flag to me.
I hate pissing on any parades, and I am glad life is treating you so good, but, don't fall into the "and it's only gonna get better for the next few years." trap, cuz quite honestly, you have no idea...trust me on this...while it may be all good looking ahead, most people tend to look up, not ahead or down and they end up stepping in dog crap without seeing it. Though, it might be a nice ride, just don't loose grip on reality, all good things can turn to nothin real quick...you've been working at it real hard for a while and deserve the good things coming to you, but never forget it can be taken away in a second...never get that invincible feeling.
I hope it is all good just a friendly bit of advice, hope for the best, plan for the worst...
Whatever ya do, I do wish the best of luck. I'm just kinda angry and bitter right now...plus, I dated at those ages once before, it wound up being a friggin nightmare. OMG...but I digress.
18 is young...26, well, not so much...8 years isn't much of a deal later in life, but at your ages it's A LOT.
Of course, then there is flame, whose age difference in his relationship makes yours look like nothin...
follow your gut, the heart is an idiot... :-)
flame...bringing sexy backMember
Since: Jul 01, 2002
Sep 06, 2005 02:05 pm Quote:
Of course, then there is flame, whose age difference in his relationship makes yours look like nothin...
and then some...
Sep 06, 2005 02:21 pm yeha man, i hear ya, and totaly respect your opinion...i understand at my age, it's real easy to fall into that kinda mentality......i'm still happily single and am definately gonna keep it that way for a good while.....we'll see what happens this week.
thanks
chris
HuePinnipedal Czar (: 3= Member
Since: Apr 11, 2004
Sep 06, 2005 02:57 pm Quote:
...you've been working at it real hard for a while and deserve the good things coming to you, but never forget it can be taken away in a second...never get that invincible feeling
That's a fact and a half .
Good luck all the same, WYD ! : )
zekthedeadcowEat Spam before it eats YOU!!!Member
Since: May 11, 2002
Sep 06, 2005 09:17 pm age wise I fall in the cultural area of 10years is ok... I think my parents are 11 years (met when my mom was 16) but as you know it needs to go slow as people change alot in the first few years of adulthood even up to thirty... I think Ive changed three or four times myself so far as a 26yo. :) but I've been a single loser for about 5 years
<PARADE RAINING>
But it's been a bad day for me i suppose...
Recording today went well though so _I'm_ all good it's just family having problems.
My sister (29) broke up with her boyfrind and I just found out my uncle had a farmhand killed today in a grizzly and stupid manner. I'm told he tried to jump back into a rolling silage truck, missed the running board, and apparently went under all the tires.
</PARADE RAINING>
WaltChief Cook and Bottle WasherMember
Since: May 10, 2002
Sep 06, 2005 09:24 pm Good grief! Enjoy yourself a little. Don't be so blessed serious. I wouldn't make any commitements either verbal or physical until I was good and ready, but enjoy the journey!
ciinxMember
Since: May 15, 2004
Sep 06, 2005 10:56 pm come on WYD I need a name that first came across your mind now! We all know who.... haha..
Example:
Your First Name of: Christopher
The name Christopher creates the urge to be friendly and diplomatic, but we point out that it limits your versatility and vision, tuning you to technical details. This name, when combined with the last name, can frustrate happiness, contentment, and and success, as well as cause health weaknesses in the fluid and elimination system.
The name of Christopher incorporates a potential aptitude for concentration and patient, logical thought along mechanical or scientific lines. You tend to prefer to follow normal routine rather than cope with the disruption and uncertainty entailed in trying something new. You gravitate to situations where you have stability and the opportunity to make slow step-by-step progress, preferably in a technical field. Procrastination and lack of self-confidence may restrict your success.
Sep 07, 2005 11:32 am my only advice would be to wait 2 weeks before you nail her!! lol. or is the age of consent in tennesse 17? j/k
i say go for it WYD!! but on the flip side what if things dont work out, will that cause a kink in your relationship with her family? either way, i say go for it!!!
Sep 07, 2005 12:02 pm classy guy, remind me to not let you date my sister...
Sep 07, 2005 01:03 pm haha thanks everyone, dude that name personality thing was pretty close!
so far it's 75% of ppl sayin' go for it, and 25% sayin' no way jose.....not that it weighs in too much...but i got a good feeling about this whole situation...and we are gooing slow....real slow...we don't even talk every day (yet) and that's cool with me.....we have a huge party commin' up in a month (on the parents property)and i've made a personal decision not to take things ANY further until that's outta the way....(although, i must admit, last year at the same party, we shared a sleeping bag....but that was just cause some A-hole kept tryin' to lay the mack on her.....
so yeah, babysteps
Sep 07, 2005 06:25 pm ok well, the next step will be baby....got a chance to spend some time with her today, and umm yeah babysteps from now on...
scouts honor
DOH!
Sep 07, 2005 06:44 pm I love it when people say "take it slow" and "baby steps" and crap like that, cuz it's always BS...not that it's good or bad, just BS, cuz it is what it is and moves how it moves and it does what it does...nobody can plan or methodically track a relationship...nor should it, thats just thinking too hard...no pun intended...
Sep 07, 2005 06:53 pm haha good point!
Sep 07, 2005 07:08 pm ...and there is no room for thinking when it comes to chicks :-D
Sep 07, 2005 07:29 pm AAHAHHHHAHAHAHAHAHH!!!!!
MAN SO TRUE!! i havn't had had a clear thought in 6 days now!!! well, a few real spicific ones here and there...
zekthedeadcowEat Spam before it eats YOU!!!Member
Since: May 11, 2002
Sep 08, 2005 07:53 pm "ok well, the next step will be baby...."
lol
